I realize in our modern, “liberated” society, we’re ”free” to experiment with and experience many people and partners in order to find the right match. But, I’ve heard it explained that since we consist of body, soul and spirit, we have this emotional (soul), spiritual and physical “pie” that we carry within us. And when we engage in romantic relationships we partake of each other’s emotional, spiritual, physical (let’s cal it ESP) pie. If we should decide to break off the relationship, we each take a piece (the longer the relationship, the bigger the piece) of each other’s pie with us - soul ties. If we do that enough times, hooking up and breaking up with enough people, we may eventually be left with crumbs of that, once whole, ESP pie. How does the prospect of finally finding your soul mate and offering a heart in pieces, damaged emotions, an inability to trust, and emotional baggage - crumbs -appeal to you? Granted, God can heal us and restore our hearts, though it usually takes time, the length of which, at least in my experience, is in direct correlation to the level of my honesty before God - honesty begets healing. But more often than not, it’s a process we often short-circuit, resulting in a half-baked pie, giving you a half-baked relationship. I know someone for whom it took 15 years after a divorce to heal and restore that ESP pie before being able to remarry. I’ve experienced two failed engagements and have undergone recovery these past several years in my effort to heal my heart, sever any remaining “soul ties”, let go of any emotional baggage, in order to offer my “soul mate” as whole an ESP pie as possible, and avoid a “rebound” situation. Most, if not all, of us would prefer to avoid the pain and loss of a break up, divorce in particular, and the potentially long road to recovery and wholeness. Sometimes, however, the best-learned lessons are the most painful. And the lesson I’ve learned is it makes sense to wait on God, to seek God, to actively ask God for the woman He wants for me, that “soul mate”, that one who “completes” me - “You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.”[1] Because if God is God, and He is, and if God is my loving Father, and He is, and if, as a Dad, He wants the best for His kids, and He does, how can I miss out on the best He wants for me? Can I really miss out on God’s best if I’m seeking Him, following Him and waiting on Him? “If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!”[2] Won’t the God who created heaven and earth, move heaven and earth to allow for a seemingly “serendipitous” meeting between myself and the woman He would have for me, that “suitable helper”? I may be a foolish romantic (emphasis on fool) but that’s what I believe. Maybe I think too highly of God? Maybe I’ve so wandered from His intended path that God’s arm is too short to help me; or maybe our “Ancient Foe” has so frustrated God’s plans for my life that I’ve missed her and any chance at earthly happiness? Even if that were so, however unlikely, still I must declare that, “…though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him…”[3], for, “ to whom shall [I] go?”[4] “Whom do I have in heaven, but [God]? I desire [Him] more than anything on earth.”[5]
“The eyes of the Lord search the whole earth in order to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.” (2Chr.16:9)[God] satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's. (Ps.103:5)
The LORD answered Moses, 'Is the LORD's arm too short? You will now see whether or not what I say will come true for you.' (Num.11:23)
“If marriage is part of God's plan for you, then you can trust Him to work out every detail, both for you and for the mate He has destined for you. He will bring you together with a person who is so exactly suited to you that, together, you may experience marriage as God originally designed it. This will be on a level higher than the world has ever dreamed of.” (God is a Matchmaker, Derek Prince)
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